As a new parent, you imagined that your child would listen to your every command, obey you at all points in life, and learn to just be a peaceful, loving child without any issues. Then one day you woke up and realized that the idea of a child who listens to every word you utter is not how this parenthood journey is going to go. You woke up one day and realized that you’re raising a strong-willed child.
Perhaps a part of you is thankful that your child is strong-willed, I mean this makes them more confident and able to stand up for themselves later on in life. The other part of you is wondering how to get your strong-willed child to listen to your instruction. With all of that being said, there are reasons why it’s good to have a strong-willed child and today I will tell you why.
They Think for Themselves
During the younger years, a strong-willed child may seem disobedient but they are simply learning how to think for themselves. They may exhibit personality traits that seem to be disobedient and in our grownup minds disobedience does need a consequence. However, there are times you can pause and realize that your child isn’t trying to be naughty. Your child is a strong-willed child and questioning what is right for them to do at this particular moment. They are embracing who they are and who they want to become and this means doing it their own way. Your job is to teach them to think wisely for themselves, not just do whatever they want because they want to do it. As the parent allow them the strength of thinking for themselves while gently guiding them to do so in a safe, acceptable manner.
Most strong-willed children will take on a leadership role later in life. They will have developed the necessary skills required to be a leader to their peers and community members. A strong-willed child means that they are able to stand up for what they believe in, stand firm when the authority figure is demanding something from them and in time, with your guidance, learn to develop proper communication tactics to fight for their beliefs. These are all strong leadership skills that your child can use in their adult life to be successful.
They Have Opinions
The really cool thing about raising a strong-willed child is that they have their own opinions. This may be challenging from a parenting perspective at times, but in reality, it’s a positive that your strong-willed child is willing to question you and share an opinion of their own. Most strong-willed children will share opinions that actually make sense. They are able to get you to think outside of the box and come down to their level of understanding. This is an essential skill to have later on in life when they venture out into adulthood.
My Strong Willed Child
My youngest is very strong willed. From the time he was able to effectively express himself he has asked questions, demanded the answers, and done things how he sees they need to be done. He is the youngest of four but is definitely the ringleader of the bunch. I heard from many people I needed to control him and make him listen but my thought was why. Why did I need to control him and form him into where I thought he should fit. I prefer to let him have his wings and fly.
My husband and I are always there to guide him and protect him. And yes there are times I wished he would just do what I say so we can get a move on but there are times I can see what he has the potential to be and I am so proud. It takes alot of patience to parent a strong willed child and embrace who they are. I have little patience and ave found myself screaming in a pillow in my room more than once lol but then I gather myself and go back to adventure.
The three strengths of a strong-willed child make it a great thing that you’re raising one. Instead of trying to change who your child is, work with your child’s strengths. A strong-willed child will be a very beneficial member of our future generation of adults. They will be able to think outside of the box, be more passionate about their opinions and learn to communicate effectively with others to open their mind to change. This is a great thing and when raised with positive guidance, your strong-willed child could change the world someday. I have every assurance that my strong willed son is going to do great things as long as I embrace who he is and help him follow his path to who he will become.